hw 56 interviews

questions: how do u think people with depression love if they are sad all the time?

Luis: they love just like anyone else. yo matt do you know how many ways there are to love. they probably love in a sad way but they have to love somehow. its part of life and we all need it.

question: do you think that love is even possible to feel?

luis: love is possible to feel but it takes time matt. it also takes getting to be a very emotional person and you gotta have strong feelings. then again there's tons of people who get married and love eachother but then get divorced. I dont think that love can be something you have with a person for life. Unless you and that person are identically mentally matched and probably have experienced a lot together, i dony think its love, its something else.

question: so you're saying that love cant be real

Luis: it can be fore some people. i think love back then in like the early 1900's was real love. lots of people who grew up in the early 1900's that had gotten married, spent their whole life with their partners and i think it has something to do with how modern and futuristic we are becoming, we have more things to fall in love with, more people to love, more diversity, so love is hard to hold on to.

question: do you think it is possible for a person suffering mentally to love someone else?

mom: yes, i think love is about what you feel in your hear, not what you think in your mind. i think that being in the right state of mind is important but some people arent that fortunate to be mentally heathy, that doesnt mean they dont have emotions. love can be for anyone.

question: have you ever thought about why people say they love someone else and they dont mean it?

mom: yepp. i think it has to do with just hearing what that other person expects, unless you say you love that person constantly and show your affection even if they dont show it back. i just think its a guy thing. guys like to say things that girls want to hear, so throwing around love, makes someone feel special. Even if that person really doesnt love them.

question: can love be eternal?

mom: thats hard to believe. eternal love is what you see on tv. i think that love has its limits and then it dies out. Although there are some people who's love wont die out, like your grandparents. yea they argue and they live like theyre roomates and not married for 30 years, but they love eachother. they dont show it because they are probably afraid to. Since for years they have joked on eachother and have never
hugged or anything. But i think they love eachother greatly.

question: do you think that love is all a mental state of mind or its is emotional?

brother: i think that its both. your mind is what builds that love, but your emotion is what acts it out. i think your mind is what lets you initially know you love someone, but the way you feel lets you express love in any form.

question: so for someone who is mentally unstable, do you think they can love?

brother: i guess they can, but their love is probably more disfunctionally put together. like the way that they love wouldnt be as looked at like the way that mentally stable people are. love is love and i think anyone can feel it.

question: do you think that there is one person who you can love and never get tired of?

brother: yes i think so. like there has to be someone out there for everyone. i know that i love someone when i can't stop thinking about them and if i do, i get sad. love is literally like a drug and people sometimes treat live the wrong way but theres nothing i can do but make sure that doesnt become my situation. i think that there is one person that you can love and never stop loving. Once you find that person, i think you view life differently and its good.

my opinion:

i think that my brother gave a pretty good line when he said that love is what you mentally think of but emotion is when you act out your thoughts. some people, well everyone thinks different so i wonder how can some depressed person act out their love, compared to someone with no emotion. theyre both pretty negative, love is mostly positive, so how can negagtive turn positive when there is something wrong with you thats not compeltely your fault?

my single question:

has the idea of love changed the way you live? yes or no?