hw 58 parenting 102

something in my life that played a role in the way i grew up was the way that my grandmother was the one to be very craing for me. while my mother worked, i stayed eith my grandma, also when my mom went out on weekend i stayed eith my grandparents. i feel like the way that i am growing up is sort of to impress them mote than to imptess my mother. i feel like when my mom would get people to help her raise me, i was looking up to them and i felt like i had to live up to them, sort of like my grandparents. they tell me to do good and they support me and so i feel like they are sort of who i try to make happy, instead of my own mom. this is one reason why i would want my child to be raised by me and some sort of nanny and not family, because family plays a big role in everyone's life and their influence is greater to a child.

when the guest speaker Rob came in to speak he said that his daughter is going to be raised organically and he will have a nanny take care of her. i feel that is the best way to raise a child. i think that a child's mind is like a flash drive. once exposed to things such as television and negative lifestyles, their memory gets filled and they save these images, and they can always come back to them. Parenting in a way that the child is carefully monitered and read to and properly taken care of, may assure that a child can develop quicker and be more intelligent. it sort of has something to do with maybe how rob was raised and maybe he wants to be different from his family norms and maybe that is why he may raise Eva the way that he has been doing.

the way that i was raised was very effective in some areas but much less effective in others, areas like respect and being nice were very effective towards me as i have grown up to be respectful and not to act out. Areas that didnt work were sort of the areas that to me seemed rebellious. Like if my mom told me not to watch something, i would watch it after she left. Things like that built up my curiosity and i feel like that was very important. Kids should be able to explore their surroundings at a young age to sort of familiarize themselves with what their society is like. i feel that curiousity is why people are the way that they are, people who at a young age had something happen to them that altered the paths of their lives forever. for the better or worse, i feel that parenting shapes a child's life to the poin where that child becomes the adult running themselves.

In a way this unit has opened my mind to parenting and maybe to even if i want a kid. the struggles and the problems that parents go through and how children run your life once you have them. I have seen so many of my closr friends especially this year, having children and now all of a suddn they cannot do anything, because they have a child that they need to cater to. children are the parents bosses, even if the paren doesnt realize it, they are. children sort of telepathically tell the parent that they have a responsibility to attend to at home, and this idea of having kids is very interesting, especially when Andy said that like half of us were all mistakes, i feel yhat society makes it so that even if a child was a mistake, you have to go through with having it, or you are looked down upon. i feel like this parenting unit will be on my mind for a while. Even when i am about to start a family, i will think back to this.

hw 57 parenting

I think that kids should be parented to be thinking at a young age. to not be too snobby and all about attention. Also i think that kids should be soley parented by the parent and not outside family, becuase that will mess with the child's mind if they are and they will sort of want to swtich sides if they like a different person's parenting rather than yours.

ALso the social arrangements can be family, but the fa,ily has to be set guidelins by the parent so that they are raised the way that you want to.

I think a child should be taught to love but they should also be taught to be an individual and that even though family matters, most of the time you are going to run yourself, so you should be smart at a young age and is able to apply the to their life.

The best part of the parenting that i had was that i was taught to love and that family is always going to be around. Also that i have many places or had many places and people that could have raised me. I learned a lot from the people who raised me, some of the people werent my favorite, but they all cared about me.

i think that i would be a great loving parent, sort of like the guest speaker Rob seems to be. Someone who cares for the child, but wants to raise them sort of differently than the ways that majority of the population is raised. i want the baby to live an organic life, with not too much of anything

I think babies shouldnt be treated like adults, but as young teens. That way i think they will grow up faster, and mature quicker.

Parenting to me may come naturally. I take care of my baby cousin sometimes and even though sometimesd he is out of control, i t only takes little efforts to calm the child. I think that the first few months or years will be hard because the baby will cry and not know anything. I may ask my family to help in most cases but i will have the most say in my childs life, and dont plan to have a child until im way older, well at least mid 30's.

hw 56 interviews

questions: how do u think people with depression love if they are sad all the time?

Luis: they love just like anyone else. yo matt do you know how many ways there are to love. they probably love in a sad way but they have to love somehow. its part of life and we all need it.

question: do you think that love is even possible to feel?

luis: love is possible to feel but it takes time matt. it also takes getting to be a very emotional person and you gotta have strong feelings. then again there's tons of people who get married and love eachother but then get divorced. I dont think that love can be something you have with a person for life. Unless you and that person are identically mentally matched and probably have experienced a lot together, i dony think its love, its something else.

question: so you're saying that love cant be real

Luis: it can be fore some people. i think love back then in like the early 1900's was real love. lots of people who grew up in the early 1900's that had gotten married, spent their whole life with their partners and i think it has something to do with how modern and futuristic we are becoming, we have more things to fall in love with, more people to love, more diversity, so love is hard to hold on to.

question: do you think it is possible for a person suffering mentally to love someone else?

mom: yes, i think love is about what you feel in your hear, not what you think in your mind. i think that being in the right state of mind is important but some people arent that fortunate to be mentally heathy, that doesnt mean they dont have emotions. love can be for anyone.

question: have you ever thought about why people say they love someone else and they dont mean it?

mom: yepp. i think it has to do with just hearing what that other person expects, unless you say you love that person constantly and show your affection even if they dont show it back. i just think its a guy thing. guys like to say things that girls want to hear, so throwing around love, makes someone feel special. Even if that person really doesnt love them.

question: can love be eternal?

mom: thats hard to believe. eternal love is what you see on tv. i think that love has its limits and then it dies out. Although there are some people who's love wont die out, like your grandparents. yea they argue and they live like theyre roomates and not married for 30 years, but they love eachother. they dont show it because they are probably afraid to. Since for years they have joked on eachother and have never
hugged or anything. But i think they love eachother greatly.

question: do you think that love is all a mental state of mind or its is emotional?

brother: i think that its both. your mind is what builds that love, but your emotion is what acts it out. i think your mind is what lets you initially know you love someone, but the way you feel lets you express love in any form.

question: so for someone who is mentally unstable, do you think they can love?

brother: i guess they can, but their love is probably more disfunctionally put together. like the way that they love wouldnt be as looked at like the way that mentally stable people are. love is love and i think anyone can feel it.

question: do you think that there is one person who you can love and never get tired of?

brother: yes i think so. like there has to be someone out there for everyone. i know that i love someone when i can't stop thinking about them and if i do, i get sad. love is literally like a drug and people sometimes treat live the wrong way but theres nothing i can do but make sure that doesnt become my situation. i think that there is one person that you can love and never stop loving. Once you find that person, i think you view life differently and its good.

my opinion:

i think that my brother gave a pretty good line when he said that love is what you mentally think of but emotion is when you act out your thoughts. some people, well everyone thinks different so i wonder how can some depressed person act out their love, compared to someone with no emotion. theyre both pretty negative, love is mostly positive, so how can negagtive turn positive when there is something wrong with you thats not compeltely your fault?

my single question:

has the idea of love changed the way you live? yes or no?

hw 54 test results

ENTP - "Inventor". Enthusiastic interest in everything and always sensitive to possibilities. Non-conformist and innovative. 3.2% of the total population.

Free Jung Personality Test (similar to Myers-Briggs/MBTI)

i like the results of this test. i feel like they are pretty accurate but it is not completely accurate. i think that when i saw the paper in class with the letters i sort of changed from entp to intp. i felt moer comfortable with those results rather than thwe ones the survey got me.

hw 55 research question

my question, is how do we determine who we love, and do we determine love based on the way that we love ourselves?
http://www.wikihow.com/Define-Love
http://www.0800-horoscope.com/compatibility.php
http://www.csulb.edu/~tstevens/h53accep.htm
http://www.4therapy.com/consumer/conditions/article/9326/113/What+is+Real+Love%3F

1. this article is about what love is. They say that love is hard to define because there are an infinite amount of ways to love.
2. this article was about data about love and different types of love compatibilities. i think this can be useful to my question. it also shows horoscopes and i wonder if those work.
3. this shows how to be comfortable with yourself and it seems reliable
4.the last article is about what love is and how to approach it. i will be using this in my paper

hw 53

the survey was very interesting. even though i did not take it due to the fact that i was absent, i thoughtthat the survey results and questions were very interesting. the question that i thought was interesting was the question, " are you afraid of death?" this question was interesting to me. about almost 40 percent of people said yes. about 30 percent said no. i thought this was interesting. these differences and answers can be analyzed for multiple things. Such as, the people who are afraid, why are they scared? is it because they havent been around death as much, or is it because they dont think about it so when they think about it, they become scared. or even that they feel that they are too young to die. this is the exact opposite of what the people who answered no may feel like. Maybe they have been around death too much, or maybe they feel that they have seen all that life has to offer so now it i time to move on. whatever the case may be, my answer to this question will be that i have no answer. i feel that i cannot answer this question. I feel that i have not experienced a life that i can be happy with, so that i why i would be afraid of death. On the other hand, death is a part of our existence, everything has to die, so why be scared when it is bound to happen. Also i feel that death shouldnt be scary because life is scarier. i cant answer this question until i have grown up and lived a better life. so i think for the people who can answer this question, they are one step ahead of me. for the people who are afraid, i think they need to sit and think about their life and then once they do that, i feel that they will become wiser in the way they live which will lessen their fears of death. for the people who answered no. They are sort of more mature and i feel like they have actually thought about death and i feel that they will be the ones to live more freely because the biggest threat to people is death, but if youre not afraid of it, then you dont have to live scared. But for now, ill just stay in between.

i think that a similarity to these serveys are that the one that we creathed had results of a large group. there were 2 basic options, but ours werent strictly yes and no. we had yes but, no but, answers to pick from. a difference is that ours did not distinguish the men from women. Our survey had a calculation of a total that was not based on gender. These surveys both asked very touchy wuestions that had people think for a while, which is what makes a survey a good survey i think. The results were also both surpriseing to me and probably other readers as well.

hw 57

HOW SHOULD WE LIVE?

This has been a question that i have thought about for a long time now. a couple times through my da, i think about why im doing this and will me doing anything in life matter when im dead? People struggle in life to be successful bcause then they will be happy. Sometimes success just brings on unhappiness. All the time we waste trying to become successfull could have been spent doing other things. Things worth while. If people spent more time thinking about the bigger questions in life instead of living in a box, i think people will become wiser and will live better lives. I think people are afraid to think ofthis question about how they are suppose to live because it often brings up the idea of death and people really dont like to touch on the topic of death. I understand that people are afraid of death but we are all going to face it.

LOVE

i think that love is hard to find, it cant be found without a lot of thinking on your part. love is something that should last a lifetime, because then its not love but a strong liking. It is hard to find love this day and age because people are so diverse, and when you think you found it, there is something else to love so love to me is something i dont think i can find untl i live longer and experience more.

FAMILY

I feel that family is a necessity for people to grow up. wether that be ur original family,are a foster family. It is important for people to feel that they are wanted in this world. sometimes though it is good to get away from family as they become more and more controlling. Like this weekend i decided to walk to my grandma's house instead of take the car with my brothers and my mom. i felt free and i felt good because i felt alone and felt like an individual

FRIENDSHIP

friends are suppose to be a someone who you can trust to get your back in almost every situation. I feel like theres a difference between friends and aquaintances. I feel like if you are good friends with a person, it is natural to talk to them. Instead of someone who you grew distant from, because that just makes both people feel akward.

Ethnicites

People should have diverse friends. I know that i have some pretty different friends. some ae spanish and others are asian. We all seem to get along well with eachother and i guess it is because we all grew up in the same area. i feel that this race barrier that sme people like, should be abolished, because i feel that having different fiends, makes experiences better becuase you can see the different ways that people are raised and i feel that seeing this makes encountering more of that certain race a bit easier to cope with because they can remind you of your friend a litle bit.